Vegetarian Advice: Dairy Allergy, M&M's, Constipation

Question: Is There a Carob Dairy Free Substitute for M&M's?

Help!!! My ex gives our son M&Ms all the time, but since my son is allergic to dairy he gets so constipated afterwards - sometimes for 3-4 days. Is there any dairy free substitute out there possibly made with carob? - J.V.

Savvy Vegetarian Advice:

Dear J.V., I looked online and found various non-dairy and carob candy, but nothing exactly like M&M's. If you search under carob non-dairy candy or treats, you'll find them. Or check your nearest natural food store. The trick is in finding a substitute treat your son will like and not react to.

According to the 'Food Allergy Survival Guide' by Joanne Stepaniak (I recommend it to you and your ex), an allergic reaction to a food can be magnified by combination with other highly allergenic substances such as artificial coloring, flavoring, preservatives, or sweeteners, high fructose corn syrup, soy, casein, peanuts, etc, all of which could be in the M&M's. Which would explain why a few M&M's could constipate your son for 3 - 4 days.

I just have to ask: If your son is so allergic to dairy that a few M&M's can constipate him for 3 - 4 days, which is pretty extreme, then why is your ex giving them to him? Have you told him and discussed alternative treats? What was his response? If he knows what happens and does it anyway, that's just plain abusive, in my opinion.

There could also be other things happening during the visits with Dad that could contribute to constipation, besides the M&M's. Not enough water to drink is one obvious possibility. Too much junk food and fried food, and not enough fruit and veg. Little physical activity.

I hope that a frank but friendly heart-to-heart talk (or a guilt trip maybe) will persuade your ex to act out of love for his child. I'm sure he wouldn't want to be constipated for three or four days (but maybe that's normal to him?) If he doesn't respond to that, find another way to persuade him, such as medical documentation and recommendations.

Hope this helps! Please let me know how it goes.

All the best, Judith Kingsbury, Savvy Vegetarian

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